He’s not heavy; He’s my brother!

Today Trooper had some trouble unzipping one of those multi-disc cd/dvd cases.  He wanted to watch one of his videos but he couldn’t quite correctly grip the small zipper pull.

Rascal comes on the scene and snitches the dvd case from his brother, proceeding to open it.  For once, it was no usual stealing-of-object-held-by-a-brother.

“See! I’m helping you!” says Rascal.

As I heard him tell his brother so, I was suddenly reminded of an article I read a few years ago, wherein a family tells about life with their special needs son.  He was born with an inherited genetic condition.  His younger sister, however, is a typically developing child.  The couple went on to write about the ups and downs of life with their son, and concluded the article by saying that due to the possibility of bearing another such special needs child, they were through having children.  Their daughter would have enough of a burden (emphasis mine) caring for her brother someday  without adding to that.

Yes, they used the word “burden.”  And no, it’s not easy having a family member with special needs.  But how was that girl going to care for her brother if she grows up thinking he’s a burden?

Trooper is no burden.  He’s our son.  And so what if his siblings or his parents have to help him accomplish simple tasks?  Isn’t that what family is for? Compassion? Loyalty? Looking out for each other? Love?

With God’s help, that’s how we’re trying to raise our crew.

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2 thoughts on “He’s not heavy; He’s my brother!

  1. Mark says:

    I know Rascal 1, he is an inspiration and a joy, a real hero of LIFE! When I think the daily grind is too much and begin to feel sorry for myself, I think of “Mr. Man” and how he meets each days challenges with determination and resolve, and I realize that my ‘tough times’ are nothing. I also thank God he was given to parents who love him unconditionaly with all their hearts and would have him no other way.

  2. Elizabeth Butina says:

    The girl from the article may indeed feel burdened caring for her brother, with no other siblings to help her out! Talk about a self-fulfilling prophecy!

    My sister-in-law, who is not Catholic, said to me once that she can’t understand people who CAN have more than one child, but choose not to. She felt that siblings will be helpers for each other in caring for their parents when they grow old. Now, of course, children are good in and of themselves, but I do think our culture tends to count the cost of raising a child to adulthood, and discount the benefit of having more children to help the family at all stages of life.

    Your kids are lucky to be raised in an environment where people are important, no matter what they can do or can’t do.

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